Book Review- Sophia Benoit's Well, This is Exhausting: Essays

Thank you to Gallery Books for providing me with a copy of Sophia Benoit’s memoir, Well, This is Exhausting: Essays, in exchange for an honest review.

In Well, This is Exhausting: Essays, comedy writer Sophia Benoit covers a variety of topics, such as body image issues, overcoming the need for male approval, and the societal pressures that women face. Benoit’s writing is frank and honest, often both thought-provoking and humorous.

I found the collection to be a bit uneven, with some chapters, particularly the ones that were numbered lists, to feel like filler material, while other chapters, such as those regarding her young-adult relationships or the idea of perfectionism for women, to be poignant. A majority of the chapters have footnotes, which again, sometimes worked well to add depth, clarity, or humor, but sometimes seemed unnecessary. Just like Benoit, I also read a lot of non-fiction writing akin to Well, This is Exhausting. Knowing the genre well, made me hyper aware of which essays had a fresh perspective and which ones seemed rehashed.

I could relate to her early dating efforts, especially the idea of being a “Chill Girl.” It made me cringe, but to some extent I could see myself at the same age, doing similar things for male attention. I can also see that behavior in many of my female friends. Benoit is more than a decade younger than me, and we dealt with different technology and lingo in our early twenties, however, the actual problems were all too similar. Benoit’s essays made me consider the disparities between men and women, and how the expectations thrust upon women are both unfair and difficult to shake.

Benoit is an interesting voice and I’d definitely read her future works. I would be most interested if she published another essay collection in a decade or two, when she has the perspective of being middle-aged. Not only would I anticipate the personal shift from experiences/passage of time, but also in a world that is rapidly changing, it would be interesting hear her take on society and feminism.

Book Review- J. Michael Straczynski's Together We Will Go

Thank you to Gallery Books for providing me with a copy of J. Michael Straczynski’s novel, Together We Will Go, in exchange for an honest review.

A little over a dozen strangers reply to a cryptic newspaper ad aimed at attracting people who wish to commit group suicide by plunging over a cliff in San Francisco. The author of the ad, Mark, is an unpublished writer who has lost hope and he promises the others in the group a fantastic bus ride across America, filled with excitement, as they head to their final destination.

A motley bunch joins this quest, including Karen, a young woman with a devastating medical condition, Vaughn, a senior grieving for his deceased wife, and Zeke, a drug addict who is traveling with his dying cat. The travelers agree to sign a waiver and to upload their stories and thoughts on their journey, both in verbal and written form, to a cloud-server, which they will leave behind as a type of art project from the beyond.

Together We Will Go is emotional and affecting, yet often hilarious and unexpected. I have to confess that I am usually triggered by stories of suicide. My father killed himself when I was four and I still carry deep anger and resentment towards both him and the situation. I find it difficult to find compassion or reason in suicide, yet Straczynski’s story allowed me to connect with his characters and their very individual reasons for making this choice. It’s hard to see their suffering and decisions as a simple, black and white issue. This gave me perspective.

I’ve never read a novel quite like Together We Will Go. I could not have anticipated the twists or the ending, all of which were satisfying. I cried and even had to stop reading over Zeke and his beloved cat. (I’m a cat person and it hit close to the heart.) Straczynski’s biggest strength is in the way he developed the relationships between the characters, some are very unexpected, yet all feel real. This was an especially big feat, as Together We Will Go has a large ensemble cast. Early in the story, I did get the characters a bit muddled, but I quickly was able to keep everything straight in my mind. Each character and their individual story is necessary and important. I felt connected to all of them and a bit crushed when the story ended.

Together We Will Go is simply a beautiful story. I finished it a week ago and it is still at the forefront of my mind. Straczynski handles a very complicated and difficult subject with grace and care. I highly recommend adding Together We Will Go to your TBR list.

Also, on a personal note, I was very happy that “Karen” is a likable and empathetic character, not like the “Karen” memes that have been going around the last few years. As a fellow Karen, this was nice to see!

Book Review- Julia Sonneborn's By The Book

Thank you to Gallery Books for providing me with an advance copy of Julia Sonneborn's novel, By The Book, in exchange for an honest review.

PLOT- Anne followed her dreams instead of her heart, and now in middle-age, she is second guessing her choices. She has a doctorate in English Literature and is teaching at a prestigious liberal-arts college in Southern California, but Anne is stressed. She has an incredible amount of student debt and is on the cusp of losing her job, which is contingent on her securing a publication deal before the end of winter semester.

To complicate matters, Anne's former college boyfriend and former fiance, Adam, has accepted the job as president at Anne's college. Their break-up happened over Anne thinking that she had to choose between love or grad school. The couple's pride prevented them from talking out this misunderstanding and they had spoken since college. 

Can Anne figure out a way to pursue all of her dreams or will her previous bad decisions impact the rest of her life?

LIKE- By The Book is a charming story and quick read. I was drawn to it because it is labeled as a modern retelling of Jane Austen's Persuasion. I love Austen and I've read Persuasion, more than once, but I guess I'm not as big of an Austen fan as I thought I was, because the actual story wasn't familiar enough for me to recognize it as a retelling. It did have Austen tones with regard to the relationship between Anne and Adam, their pride getting in the way and the general romantic overtones. The story has a very Austen type of character in Rick, a slick-talking writer that sweeps Anne off her feet, but who is of course, not the man he seems. Rick and Adam have an Austen style stand-off, where they each pursue Anne in their own way, but have a clear disdain for one another. 

Persuasion is brought up in a straight-forward way, as Anne's favorite book, a precious copy is given to her by Adam when they are first dating. Various writers are mentioned, via Anne's love of literature and her profession, so By the Book is made for book-lovers. You'll geek out over the references.

I loved the character of Larry, Anne's best friend at the college. He's the type of best friend that everyone should aspire to have in their lives and to be to others. He's awesome!

By the Book is a fluffy, enjoyable read. It's a great vacation pick, fast-faced and a story that will leave you with a smile on your face. I don't generally favor overly romantic stories, but this hit the right level of romance to melt my heart.

DISLIKE- Not a true dislike, but I need to explain the level of By The Book. I very much enjoyed it, but it's not they type of book that is likely to win-awards or will be life-changing. It's simply an entertaining read and there is nothing wrong with that!

RECOMMEND- Yes! I've already recommend this to a close friend who loves Austen. By the Book is romantic, and sweet story with likable characters.